Overcoming Hurdles

by PURVI RADIA
Posted on 2008-10-11
There is a saying from Thomas Edison, an American inventor and a businessmen, “If we all did the things we are capable of doing, we would literally astound ourselves.” He is right. If we knew our hidden potentials and capabilities we would have used them to the best of our abilities.
Successful people recognise this fact of tapping their hidden powers and create a lasting change in themselves and their lives by developing their personality.
When we think and analyse how people around us have behaved or reacted, we are in a way trying to assess how their personalities are, without really knowing what we are doing. Personality as we all know is shown by the way we feel, behave and think. Mere external appearance or a person’s speech or mannerisms are only fringes of one’s personality. They do not reflect the real personality. Personality development in the real sense refers to deeper levels of a person.
Personality development concerns with various aspects of emotions in our life, which can be entangled by giving a proper form to our personality.
Ms Joyce Gracias, proprietor of fine edge solutions, Campal said, “Each one has its own potential, which needs to be developed. This indistinct personal qualities are either sometimes suppressed by low motivation or through lack of parental guidance or through some other reasons.”
Many a times, you often lack confidence, show fear to talk in the enormous crowd or have low self-esteem. “Stage phobia was my weakness. Every time there was a function, I felt shy on stage,” said Meena, a 15 year old who always wanted to overcome her fear.
Niraj said, “Reading books helped me gain confidence, develop the qualities of a winner and reduced my negative thinking in life. In fact it gave me many inputs for a good personality.”
Ms Gracias said, “Personality cannot be cent percent improved via books but it requires individual back up to indulge in the activities that can stimulate you to develop your personality in all the aspects.”
Coming to the specific question of how to develop one’s personality? The most important thing one should understand is to know the main factors that constitute ones personality. We should know our physical traits, intellectual qualities, attitude, behaviour pattern, feelings and aspirations, commitments and conviction.
Positive thinking is the main thing lacking in many youngsters. Not every time do they wear a self-assured look. Positive thinking is a major aspect about personality development. It can help alter the results and actually get positive results your way. The proprietor of Fine Edge solutions said, “We have self-awareness exercises (like knowing about your self and your potential), emotional intelligence and assertiveness to develop positive thinking.”
A lot of youngsters develop stress for many reasons. Stress needs to be kicked off as it can affect our personality. She said we have stress management activities and also some yoga asana, which benefits in sustaining concentration.
Focusing on personality development can help overcome many hurdles in your life. Problems that may seem to loom large can suddenly seem to be really miniscule for you. Always fill your mind with positive and fresh thoughts. Remember, how you present yourself has a lot to do with the way things can turn out for you. So, turn things in your favor with successful ways of personality development.